Saturday, February 9, 2008

Fighting with your spouse is good for you

Good news for hubby & I, University of Michigan has a new study out that says A good fight with your spouse can be good for your health.

Couples who suppressed their anger have a mortality rate twice as high as those in which at least one partner stands up for themselves, according to the study which tracked 192 U.S. couples for 17 years.
"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict," said lead author Ernest Harburg, an emeritus professor with the University of Michigan.
"The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it?" he said.
"When you don't, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don't try to resolve the problem, then you're in trouble."

Well good thing I do not suppress my anger, lol. The study looked at how suppressed anger affects overall morality. They took in to account age, weight, smoking, blood pressure and a few other health factors as well.

I think even with this, it all depends on the way you fight. If you are yelling and screaming at each other every day, then your stress level will make up for anything that the not suppressing is helping :)

Now go have a good fight with your spouse ...


Michelle said...

Hmm, interesting. I should go start a fight. ;) It does make sense though, keeping things bottled up inside never helps. I do that every so often, but hubby and I try to talk about things. Thanks for mentioning the study!

Ginny said...

Talking it out sounds better, I think the best thing from this study is that it is better to get those feelings out then bottling them up!

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